After a relationship crumbles sooner than you would like, you might find yourself thinking and missing your ex like crazy. Making your ex miss you and
winning your ex back does not need to be complicated, but it does require you to have the right frame of mind. Instead of thinking about 'wanting them back' or how to 'win them over', consider thinking they already miss you. They really DO want you back. They really just want to test you to see how you really feel about them. Remember, adopt empowering thinking and in time they will 'truly' miss you.
Here are the 4 easy steps you need to follow:
Step 1:
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. The first easy way to make your ex miss you is to disappear completely. They will definitely miss you, even if it's only out of curiosity.
Step 2:
If disappearing is out of the question, make yourself scarce instead. Your ex will probably expect you to wallow around depressed over them, so you need to become elusive. Get active. Go out a lot. Be seen everywhere having fun or at least looking like you are fine with the break up. You don't need to start dating people, although you could if you really want. Just don't expect making your ex jealous will automatically make them come back to you.
Step 3:
By this stage, the message you want your ex to have is you are no longer accessible to them. They broke up with you so they are no longer entitled to all your attention and energy. However, NEVER appear spiteful, rude or vindictive. You still want to show your ex you care about them. Your actions have nothing to do with wanting them back or wanting to make them jealous.
Step 4:
The few times you do get to talk to your ex, make sure you appear upbeat and happy to see them. This shouldn't be hard. Just think about how much you miss seeing and talking to them. They will see you still care about them and if they start looking for you, this means you've succeeded in making them miss you!
So now that your ex is probably missing you like crazy, wondering where you are, what you could be doing, why you're having so much fun without them. How do you
get them back without accidentally saying or doing the wrong things that could push them further away?
Once your ex is missing you, there are certain things you can say that will make them fall in love with you again. They will think of you as a prospective partner and this will happen whether they have someone new or not. Head to
Win My Ex Back for more tips and advice.
STILL FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX
If you are still friends with your ex and you talk with him/her on a regular basis, you can make him/her miss you enough to want you back by “singing yourselves back to existence".
1. Bring up really wonderful feelings and experiences that happened in the past when you were together. Talk about fun times, the emotional moments, and the silly/embarrassing incidences that made both of you laugh/cry together and feel closer to each other.
2. Ask him/her if he/she remembers -- television shows, songs, food, events and remembered images and encounters, what he/she remembers and why he/she remembers them. This will gently pull him/her back into that state of mind that unites the realities of the present and past, the longing between yesterday and tomorrow. Pieces of the everyday create the sense of unity. Little trivial things make the strongest bonds.
3. Talk about your times together not with regret or giving the impression of wanting to go back in the past but with the goal of making him/her feel that those were the best times of your life. The real secret is not in looking back to what it was nor forward to what might have been but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. When the only continuity possible in life is NOW, there is in the NOW fluidity, freedom, active engagement, growth and the sense of being “unburdened" or put in a modern hip way -- no stress.
4. Use ‘we" instead of “I’ or “you". Your goal should be to redefine the meaning of “we" and why it is much better than “you" and “I". Don’t’ idealize it -- no falsity, no pretence, no disillusionment just appreciation.
ALL THE BEST
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